Site Moderators - Ms Margaret Davis, Mr Tom Ryder

1.  What is the purpose of Ms Margaret's Cyber Club?
The objective is to educate new people, build trust and communication skills in the scene, and to entertain.  It's everyone's job to contribute to a positive experience when people explore their spanking needs.
The cyber club is a forum comprised of a message board and chat room to express ourselves, and meet others who share our interest. It is a place to ask questions, exchange views, relate experiences, gain knowledge and engage in cyberplay, all centering around our favorite subject, Traditional OTK spanking and loving discipline; it is NOT a forum for Personal Advertisements seeking women for personal spanking encounters! This forum is intended for adults over 18 only. Also, while cyber spanking does occur here, discussions relating to spanking or disciplining of minor children is not acceptable on this site.   This is NOT the place to request a personal appointment. Please see Ms. Margaret's homepage for information regarding that.
 

2.  What is considered an inappropriate post?
An inappropriate post is one that is offensive to someone. If its insulting, negative, sexual or not in the spirit of the site then it will get deleted. Also, an inappropriate post is one that does not follow the theme of the thread that it is posted to. Sex and profanity, and sexually explicit pictures, are not allowed. Courtesy and respect toward all club members should never be violated.. Disagreements should be handled via email. Posting a "bratty" reply to a serious discussion can be disrespectful. Likewise, trying a lighthearted topic into a cerebral discussion is not advisable.

3.  How to engage in a cyber spanking via message board or chat room.
This web site and cyber Club are focused on traditional OTK spanking, which does not include any of the references to BDSM community. Please keep in mind that all activities on this website, including cyber spanking are to be engaged in concentually.  Just as in real life, spanking at the cyber Club must be agreed upon by both parties.  Initial communication between a top and bottom is required prior to spanking a "bottom".   If the intended spankee indicates that they are uncomfortable or protests in a 'non scene' way, do not go through with the spanking. Always use common sense, proper manners, clean language and good taste. If there is any doubt whatsoever of the willingness of a bottom to be spanked online, please send an email to discuss the possibility of giving or receiving the spanking. It is best to proceed slowly and cautiously when topping someone, especially if either player is new..

When signing on use screen name that is gender specific to you.  Use Mr., Ms. Or Miss to idicate if you are a top.
 

4.  When is it acceptable to script the actions of others?
During cyber play, it is often necessary to include in a post, actions or reactions of others.  Use some caution. It is usually not a good idea to script actions of cyber mates until you have played together for a while and have become familiar with their characters. Even after a rapport has been established, stop and think before writing another person's actions or reactions into a story, particularly if it is a spanking scene or one that involves 'topping' or 'bottoming'. Start slow with comments like, "she rolled her eyes in disbelief", or, "he laughed hysterically and fell to the floor" before moving on to dialogue or more scene specific actions. And, as always, respect the roles and limits of other players. NEVER "script" words for Ms Margaret or Mr Ryder!

5.   Does Ms. Margaret or Mr. Ryder play on the message board?
On occasion, Ms. Margaret and/or Mr. Ryder will play on the message board. These instances occur when their schedules allow and are not on a regular basis. It is acceptable to include references to them while engaged in cyber play, however, it is never a good idea to script their actions. Also, please do not post a message, (except in the "Ask Ms. Margaret" thread), putting Ms. Margaret or Mr. Ryder into a situation that warrants their reply.  Especially, do not post a spanking scene which includes either one of them.
 

6. What do I do if someone's post offends me?
You have several choices.
-First, the offended party should send an email to their attacker. Usually communication is the key to smoothing out hurt feelings.
-If emailing the offender does not prove satisfactory, email MsMargaret@scony.com for help but make an effort to work it out yourself.  Part of coming into the scene is learning how to communicate logically.
One thing that is NOT advisable is to PUBLICLY attack the offending party via the message board as this will likely escalate the problem.

7.  We are very fortunate to have a number of people in this club.  Each and every one is a precious jewel and should be treated as such. Many of the regulars (Male and Female) are very protective of the membership. Offending,  violating Ms Margaret's guidelines, or chasing away any one of the ladies is a very serious misdeed. It is most important during "play", that courtesy and respect are maintained. Posting anything of a sexual nature or dealing with inappropriate body parts is not in the spirit of the site. Take the time to get to know a player's comfort level before doing a scene or posting as participants.. This may take a little effort, but it will usually result in a mutually pleasurable encounter.  This site is maintained for spanking so, if you're patient, you'll find some interesting interaction.  This isn't a sex club, an outlet for swingers, or a private club to stroke an inflated ego.  Trolling for sex and sex partners isn't part of this spanking club.