Activities on any given video do not necessarily represent situations Ms. Margaret or SCONY members feel are appropriate. If you are new understand that videos never represent styles of play that coincide with the interests of more conservative players. Not all spankos get overly concerned with nudity, uncovered genitalia, sexual scenes, bruises, welts, heavy play and extreme humiliation.   Videos are not real life. Be careful what you wish for.

If you are new to being a top please don't assume that all bottoms have the tolerance of  video actors.  Start slow and be respectful of the limits and boundaries the bottom is communicating to you.  If you are a new bottom make sure your top understands the  style of spanking to which you have consented. (Playful, Discipline, Sensuous, Erotic).  Express your tolerance and be sure you have a way to communicate a safety signal if you're having a problem.  Tops and Bottoms can use safe words if things don't feel right.  Both parties should be enjoying the scene.  All activities should be safe, sane and consensual.  Your goal is to bring mutual pleasure to each other and finish the scene with both parties happy.

While I have respect for the interests of the BDSM community I find their taste with spanking has an exaggerated dungeon/master/slave and overly erotic slant to it.  That would be their right but it has nothing to do with what old-fashioned OTK spankers enjoy.  Domestic and natural settings are more our taste.  Erotic spanking is only one of five styles that are identified in our community.  There is no BDSM play at Ms. Margaret's spanking parties.  The party protocol is listed at the bottom of the page.

OPTILAP: Interactive, group socializing to re-establish and secure timeless community standards through the use of Old-fashioned, Platonic, Traditional, Institutional, Loving And Parental discipline."  For short, it is an OPTILAP spanking experience.  It's not age play or role-play but a choice to be held accountable for behavior.  It doesn't have to hurt but it should, in some way, get one's attention.  Pain limits are expected and safe words respected. OPTILAP is most effective if you use generic and non sexual references.

Protocol for all Spanking Club of New York (SCONY) Parties:
*** Appropriate play:Old-Fashioned,Platonic,Traditional, Institutional, Loving And Parental spanking.(OPTILAP).Playful and/or light discipline scenes only. Marks and bruises are not welcome.Sensuous and erotic play is best kept private and at another time.
***(F/M, M/F, F/F). SCONY is a heterosexual group and enjoys the company of both sexes.
*** Female bottoms wear a thong.
*** Appropriate implements:  HAND, paddle, hairbrush, strap, wooden spoon,
cane, tawse, birch
*** Appropriate titles:  Mr., Ms., Miss or first names
*** Appropriate Dress: _Dressy casual_. No T-Shirts, flannel or caps
*** Keep a respectful distance when watching others.
*** We use safe words.  "Yellow" (ease up/caution)
and "RED" for stop.
*** A hand on the ankle means to ease up/lighten up.

*** No big egos.
*** No Leather, Latex, PVC, Diapers or Cross dressing.
*** No masters, mistresses, goddesses or slaves.
*** No whips, riding crops, cat o' nine tails or floggers.
*** No collars, leashes, ropes or bondage equipment.
*** No large implement carriers or shopping bags. Use checkrooms.
*** No erotic massaging
*** No frontal nudity
*** No T-Shirts, flannel, or caps.
*** Playful or light discipline scenes preferred.
*** Erotic spanking is discouraged and not appreciated.
*** No one does business but Ms. Margaret. Vendors and such are rare.
*** No cameras or recording devices of any kind.
*** No cell phones in the party space.  All calls are taken outside.